• A bit of a rant

    I am not the type that does posts where I rant about things but over the past week I have taken so much flack at stores.  Numerous times this week I had male tellers make comments about my purchases. Both of them made really derogatory comments about me loving to spend my husband's money.  The funny thing is that the shopping was for groceries and everyday household items.
    I get incredibly offended when people think I spend JP's money and that I need his money.  I have worked incredibly hard to grow my career and earn some financial stability in my own right, so to have comments made to degrade who I am and all I have worked for really pisses me off.  I grew up in a household where my sister and I were encouraged to be all that we can be and work towards having financial freedom so that we would never be dependent on anyone for money.

    I struggle to understand how anyone can think it is ok to make smug comments about women and money.  Even if I was spending JP's money, it would be my right to do so because we are partners in life and share what we have.  As much as I know that I should not let a few people upset me, I am just growing so sick and tired of the perception of women.  We should not need to explain ourselves to anyone.

    I will try not to get upset the next time I have to deal with comments, but I do worry that I am going to lose my cool and give the next person a piece of my mind.

    Anyway, enough of my ranting. I just had to get this off my chest.  Hope you all have a great day.

    Big Hugs,
    Charlene XXX

    5 comments:

    1. Ugh, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this! I've had similar things happen, but slightly different. I'm not married, but the few times I've decided to treat myself, my boyfriend has been with me. We would get comments like "Oh, so sweet that he's treating you!" and then when I'm the one that passes over the card, there's this glance and the comment "You're paying for it? You do know you should look after your lady!" like my boyfriend SHOULD be paying for these things. Not only does this make him feel crappy, it makes me feel crappy too! Adding to this, I often get sales ladies saying "I've treated myself a few times this month, but everytime I ask my boyfriend for money, he gets irritated and reminds me how much money I've spent. Hopefully you don't get the same!" Thanks. Just thanks.

      All this is just so condescending. I hope next time both you and I actually say something back.

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    2. Oh hun - I am so sorry this happened to you, people can be such assholes !! My boyfriend has more money then I do and people also just assume that his white and has money that I am using him! This pisses me off because I struggled myself and in fact we go half on almost everything and I will take him for dinners but people just assumed I work hard and I take care of myself!

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    3. Hi Charlene, I can understand why you are irritated and those comments are not appropriate for someone in the service industry. However, you have a tertiary education, financial freedom and a good job and the reality of someone who works a low paying job behind a till in South Africa is very different from yours. In many cases women in low income households are not in control of their money. I am not saying that you don't deserve what you have worked hard towards, so please don't take this as an attack on you. I am just suggesting that you take it with a pinch of salt and not get worked up about a comment someone who lives in a very different world to you may make. Peace, love & understanding xx S

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      1. That is just ridiculously bad service, and such an outdated point of view for them to have. My other half and I split everything equally, and although he has surprised me in the past, 90% of the time I am spending my own money when it comes to spoiling myself - and I assume it's the same for most working women. Maybe just smile sweetly, and say "Nope, it's all mine."

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      2. Oops, didn't mean to reply to a comment! :P

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