• Feel Good Friday

    Something really hit me hard this week, I had a serious case of the dreaded green-eyed monster. As most bloggers and blog followers are aware, a VERY nice press drop went out to some bloggers and some bloggers were excluded from this drop (including me). When I saw this, I got quite upset and really felt disheartened. My usual reaction is "what did I do wrong?" and "why don't they like me?". I was quite upset for two days. It then dawned on me, I was jealous – jealous over something I can quite happily buy for myself. Once I realised that, the embarrassment hit me. I told myself that I need to relax and not let things affect me so much.
    I like being honest to my readers on my blog and share these experiences because I know I am not alone. We are all human after all. I am usually not the envious or jealous type when it comes to blogging and I definitely don’t want it to turn into that type of blogger. I don’t take blogging competitively and I don’t feel I am entitled to anything simply because I have a blog.

    So anyway, now that I got that all off my chest – hope you have a great day and enjoy the weekend ahead.

    Big Hugs,
    Charlene XXX

    22 comments:

    1. I felt the same way don't worry we are all human and we love you anyway xxx hehe

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    2. What an awesome post! I have long learnt to accept that my blog is for me and all of my readers. And not for the PR peeps. If they don't like me or my blog, whatever. If I don't get a press drop. So be it. I'm over being jealous and trying to be like those bloggers who always get press drops. 2015 is about me and my blog and I'm doing things my way, at my own pace! Have an awesome weekend, Charlene!

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      1. Thanks Imka. I try not to let things get to me but it's hard at times.

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    3. Ahh hunny, it's completely normal. I am quite aware of the drop you were referring too and though I have never worked with the company, I am well aware of you and others who do work with them and kind of just expected to see posts from you. It feels weird when they choose to exclude some. I have been thinkin lately about 1 of the first companies that I ever partnered up with, they used to be in touch monthly and then they kind of just fell off the face of the earth with press. I always wonder if I did something wrong, didn't I deliver what was promised or is this going to affect my standing with other PR firms. I know that it is silly - but we all go through these times. Good on you for realizing that it is just a phase and know that it is completely normal. xoxo

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      1. Thank Megan, it just knocked me quite hard and I guess I'll never understand it. But like Chicara and Chereen said, the companies have their reasons and that is that! Thanks for leaving a comment and for your your encouragement.

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    4. Yes , it feels a little suckish when you don't get included in an amazing press drop. (And that was a mindblowing press drop ) . It's normal to feel that way - and yes you do tend to sometimes question if YOU did something wrong or that you are not good enough. But at the end of the day, as a fellow blogger - YOU have an AMAZING blog , with or without great press drops. xxxx

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      1. I am glad you like my blog Lynette and thank you for your support.

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    5. I applaud you for being so honest! Sometimes I get the feeling that some people only start blogs to get the freebies. It's so noticeable though because you can pick it up in their writing straight away. You can see they have no interest in engaging with their readers. Their writing is bland and dead.

      I love your blog and your writing style so be super proud of yourself for having a genuine blog xxx

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      1. It is hard opening up about things like this at time - because it isn't an admirable quality I am putting on show here for all to see. But I do think it's important to share these moments with readers so that they know what I am going through and what it feels like at times for us bloggers. Thank you so much for always supporting me and my blog Kate. It means a lot!

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    6. Sending you big hugs, Charlene! Don't worry, we all have 'those days'. :) Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy and find fault with ourselves when there isn't any reason to feel the way we do (not sure if I'm making sense there). I really should give myself a break more often & not be so hard on myself. We all should...

      Your blog is amazing, just keep doing what you're doing. :) XO

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      1. You make complete sense and it does help hearing all the bloggers' stories. Shows that I am not alone :)

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    7. I always tell myself it isn't a reflection of your blog whatsoever, it is just totally random luck of the draw. It happens to me 90% of the time with invitations and press drops, and I don't even get upset any more. Just remember your blog is gorgeous and successful and the tide will turn again and you will get the next beautiful press drop! blogging is so up and down, there is always so much to look forward to even though you feel despondent right now. Big hugs xx

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      1. It definitely does seem to be the case and luckily there are great people like you to help cheer me up. Big Hugs XXX

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    8. I can relate to this so much, Charlene! There've been times in the past when it really got me down and I took it as a reflection on my blog or - worse! - on me. It's hard not to let it get to you, because blogging IS so personal. Since I started working in PR I've realised that there is so much that goes on behind the scenes - sometimes it isn't possible to send to everyone, so you split it up and send a press drop to one group of bloggers this time, and the next drop to another group when the time comes. Often, the brands themselves have a lot of say in who gets included on a press drop - this can be so difficult for me as an avid blog reader, as it often means that bloggers I personally love don't get included in a drop! Such a tough one, but you really seem to have handled this with grace - well done. And don't ever feel as though YOU or your blog aren't good enough - your blog is absolutely beautiful and you are doing such an amazing job xxx

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      1. Yeah, I guess as bloggers we don't think about the PR people and what they have to go through at times. We'll probably never fully understand the thoughts and decisions that go into these types of press drops. Thank you for your kind words - it means a lot coming from a blogger like you XXX

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    9. Thank you for posting this Charlene. I think this is a common feeling amongst bloggers. But something that we don't talk about. There comes in a time in every bloggers life where they feel snubbed or excluded. I often feel this way and then I end up doing the same as you - beating myself up for it. It feels like your blog isn't good enough or it's personal. I've come to realise that sometimes it's not. There are many reasons that a blogger won't be sent something and I'm almost certain it's not because they don't like your blog. I agree with what Chereen said about all the factors. I've heard lots about that.

      But anyway just wanted to say that I know how you feel. There's a brand that has 'snubbed' me for years. It's hard not to take it personally. At the end of the day I know you're not a blogger that does it for the free stuff. Your blog is a beautiful showcase of you and what you love. Keep doing it! xx

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      1. It is something I think we all just feel too shy about or just plain scared - in case companies see this and think we are just in it for freebies (even though most of the products I feature are bought with my own money). It was therapeutic to blog about it and I needed to just get it out. Glad it struck a cord with so many people and helped them too. big Hugs Chicara - you've always supported me and my blog - from day 1. I'll always be grateful for that XXX

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    10. I was also excluded from that drop but just received a different drop from them. They do have quite a long list of bloggers on their press list and tend to split up the drops. All companies do this to some extent and it is nearly impossible to be on the inner circle list i.e the one who gets each and every new product Really don't beat yourself up about it. Who is a company to make you feel any less or feel any less about your blog. Keep up all of the good work and know that there are plenty readers who appreciate your work :)

      XoXo One Stiletto At A Time

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      1. Big Hugs and thanks for you very kind words XXX

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    11. Your blog is amazing hun and it is difficult, most of us have those days but like you said, you blog for yourself!

      Hugs pretty lady xXx

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      1. Thanks Cassidy. I try not to lose sight of that reason :) XXX

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