• The biggest lesson I learned from planning my wedding day

    I purposefully have tried to keep my blog on subject (beauty related) and not transform it into a wedding blog when I got engaged. Today however I am doing a wedding post because I have been asked by a lot of people (that are in the process of planning a wedding) what I learned from the whole experience of planning a wedding. I experienced a lot of things, learned from mistakes and discovered some great things - but to keep the post short I thought I would share the biggest lesson I learned. 
    
    My wedding cake and setup - photos taken by Alexandra Graham
    When it came time to decide on a date and what we wanted, JP and I didn’t really struggle much with decisions. We are both the type of people that don’t really follow traditions and we both aren’t too concerned by all the formalities that accompany weddings. So we chose to have a very short ceremony (15 minutes long) and the reception was an informal luncheon with no speeches or assigned seating…no formalities to it what so ever. The décor was kept simple because the wedding was set in a beautiful location and photos were done impromptu with guests and not forced on anyone.

    Leading up to the wedding we had to deal with a fair share of criticism and comments over our choices. People didn’t understand what we wanted and why we weren’t sticking to a “traditional wedding”. My response to everyone was “This is my wedding, it is what I want”. So this leads me to my advice – if you are paying for your wedding you have every right to do what YOU want to and not what other expect you to do. I understand that one has to “keep the peace” but that should not turn your wedding day into something you don’t want it to be (this is of course entirely different if someone else is paying for things – then you have to negotiate with them on what you want and what they want). 

    JP and I are so happy with how our wedding day turned out, it was everything we wanted it to be despite the down pour of rain on the day. The focus of the entire day was on JP and I getting married – the moment we said our “I dos” – not the reception following the ceremony. Everything was simple, fuss free and intimate. To me it felt like a family gathering except I got to walk around in a pretty wedding dress.

    I wouldn’t say that my wedding was one of those weddings that would be featured in magazines and end up on people’s Pinterest boards but it was exactly what we wanted. I would happily do the whole thing over again (with JP of course!) exactly how we did it. I am so happy that JP and I stood our ground and planned the day we wanted.

    It is your wedding day – plan the day how YOU want it to be, not how others expect it to be.

    Big Hugs,
    Charlene XXX

    9 comments:

    1. Wow you looked amazing on your wedding day omg and that cake!

      Candice | Beauty Candy Loves
      xoxo

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      1. Candice, I always love all the comments you leave on my posts. Means a lot to me. The cake was one thing JP and I splurged on (but is was still VERY reasonable for what it was) because we served the cake as dessert - so we wanted it to look good but more importantly - taste good. Big Hugs XXX

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    2. Hi Charlene, I really enjoyed this post. It's so nice to see that there are still people who aren't being caught up in all the hype of having a wedding. It's not about the wedding, it's about the marriage and it's also not about what other people want! Thank you for sharing. You looked beautiful!

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      1. Thanks Linda. It's one of those tricky situations - but it is very much planning the day you want. If a MASSIVE wedding is what you want then that is what you should do. But at the same time, I don't think I should be made to feel ashamed of my wedding because it didn't live up to the standards some people set. I loved what we did on the day - it suited us and captured our personalities so well. Thank you again for leaving a comment and for the kind words XXX

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    3. People get so caught up in the theatrics of a lavish event they forget the reason for the party. Well done for standing your ground and doing what made you happy. You looked lovely and so happy. I have no doubt you and JP will have a long and happy marriage.

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      1. I think it is so easy to get caught up and carried away. The sad part to me is that a lot of the time it is because people think there are expectations to really go all out and spend a fortune. I really loved my wedding day - it was so special and it was completely stress free. That is why I would happily do it all over again! Thanks for your lovely comment. Hope to see you at the next BWB meetup XXX

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    4. Absolutely beautiful pictures! We did our own thing too, not even telling anyone other than our families that we were eloping! I am so glad you had such a perfect day xxx

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    5. That cake is perfection, Charlene! And you were such a gorgeous bride - I'm so happy for you! xox

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    6. It looked beautiful and so did you :) x

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